What stops the free flow of thoughts while speaking…

Hesitation - It is an unknown, indefinable resistance, which do not let us to be open to others. Many times even if we know what we are suppose to speak and have full confidence in our thoughts, we don’t let it come out because we are hesitant in speaking in crowd, group or in front of some particular individual. And then when someone else comes up with same idea as ours, we realize that we could have spoken. It is not just about conveying ideas but also our feelings. Sometimes just because we are hesitant in telling what we actually feel, we land up in an undesirable situation. Inferiority feeling - A feeling which we get when we compare ourselves with someone we consider to be much more superior to us which actually may not be true. It is general human tendency to compare them to people around and judge them on that basis. This feeling may be due to the lack of technical knowledge, lack of fluency in a language which is considered to be superior by all, lack of understanding of your own potential, past failure experiences etc etc. Once this feeling gets into an individual it wont let that persons express freely except when in a very comfortable and intimate environment. Language- Thoughts are to be put up in proper and sequential manner in a language we are most comfortable with. Many people have communication problem because of the lack of verbal ability be it in any language. This inhibits the person from being able to speak his/her heart out. Second reason is English, which is considered as one language without which we cannot progress in this country though the national language is Hindi. People coming from villages or small town or non-English medium schools cannot speak out in English but same thing they can very comfortably express in their own mother tongue. Knowledge- knowledge about our field boosts our confidence and if it is lacking we wont be able to express our thoughts in front of technical people except if we are really smart enough to fool them. Even if we have good technical know how but lacking confidence in our knowledge leads to the same result. Fear of failure - “My thoughts are not good enough and it wont be acceptable by others. This will be humiliating for me. So I wont put up my feelings.” This is a general feeling, which many of us get when it comes to express ourselves. We feel we won’t get success and so it is useless to do so. Every time we get such feeling we pull ourselves back and finally a day comes when we are not ready to face any failure and this prohibit us from growing. Delay- if a thing has to be express now and if its delayed even for sometime, we may not like to share it any more. This may be because conditions may have changed, our mind may have changed. Even if we speak out later it may be a modified version of your thoughts... This was feel flow of my thought…now its your turn….